Comments on: Smear Campaigns, Part 4 http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/smear-campaigns-part-4 A Blog About Toxic and Non-Toxic People Sun, 02 Dec 2012 18:30:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 By: Light http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/smear-campaigns-part-4#comment-5832 Light Tue, 16 Oct 2012 03:45:29 +0000 http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/?p=313#comment-5832 <blockquote><strong>When I mention getting a counselor, my kids say we don’t trust anyone but you. They are currently on a week visitation out of state. I can’t believe this is our life! We don’t get out of survival mode. It has been like this for year. I don’t want to push the “trust” with the kids but need to do what is best for them and myself. Help!</strong></blockquote> If they won't go, just start going for yourself. They may change their minds when they see you benefiting. Worth a shot, and will at least help you.

When I mention getting a counselor, my kids say we don’t trust anyone but you. They are currently on a week visitation out of state. I can’t believe this is our life! We don’t get out of survival mode. It has been like this for year. I don’t want to push the “trust” with the kids but need to do what is best for them and myself. Help!

If they won’t go, just start going for yourself. They may change their minds when they see you benefiting. Worth a shot, and will at least help you.

]]> By: Light http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/smear-campaigns-part-4#comment-4881 Light Thu, 16 Aug 2012 02:06:46 +0000 http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/?p=313#comment-4881 Such a classic example of the whole N-family being in on the action. It's virtually never just about one narcissist floating around in an otherwise healthy family. Family narcissism is a team sport, with narcissists, co-narcissists, and flea-bitten siblings keeping it all in check. Such a classic example of the whole N-family being in on the action. It’s virtually never just about one narcissist floating around in an otherwise healthy family. Family narcissism is a team sport, with narcissists, co-narcissists, and flea-bitten siblings keeping it all in check.

]]> By: Dee http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/smear-campaigns-part-4#comment-4829 Dee Sun, 12 Aug 2012 02:24:52 +0000 http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/?p=313#comment-4829 I learned early not to be alone with my N when he turned against me. He is still punishing me for not letting him have any alone time. I have refused to be alone with him for 4 years now. I've had relatives pleading with me to 'stop the feud' with my N brother. It's not a feud - it's a smear campaign plain and simple. He pretends to be all passive and benign when I see him now, but he put up a fb post 10 minutes after seeing me that said "I just saw someone who wishes evil on me." Talk about projection! Lots of friends rushed to his defense even though they didn't know who he was talking about. I learned early not to be alone with my N when he turned against me. He is still punishing me for not letting him have any alone time. I have refused to be alone with him for 4 years now. I’ve had relatives pleading with me to ‘stop the feud’ with my N brother. It’s not a feud – it’s a smear campaign plain and simple. He pretends to be all passive and benign when I see him now, but he put up a fb post 10 minutes after seeing me that said “I just saw someone who wishes evil on me.” Talk about projection! Lots of friends rushed to his defense even though they didn’t know who he was talking about.

]]> By: kelley http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/smear-campaigns-part-4#comment-4215 kelley Sun, 01 Jul 2012 15:03:47 +0000 http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/?p=313#comment-4215 Currently I am being smeared by two ex-husbands over child custody of my 14/13 yr. olds. The kids N father added spyware on both of my kids phones. These phones have been recording conversations in my attorney's office while I wasn't in the meeting, and in my private home for at least a year. I am now on paranoia overload. I'm having trouble processing how devious and evil their N father truly is. The kids N father has remarried an N as well with the same name as myself! My kids barely trust me because of this latest spy tactic. My son talks about wanting to punch his dad in the face. My daughter told her dad she hates him. When I mention getting a counselor, my kids say we don't trust anyone but you. They are currently on a week visitation out of state. I can't believe this is our life! We don't get out of survival mode. It has been like this for year. I don't want to push the "trust" with the kids but need to do what is best for them and myself. Help! Currently I am being smeared by two ex-husbands over child custody of my 14/13 yr. olds. The kids N father added spyware on both of my kids phones. These phones have been recording conversations in my attorney’s office while I wasn’t in the meeting, and in my private home for at least a year. I am now on paranoia overload. I’m having trouble processing how devious and evil their N father truly is. The kids N father has remarried an N as well with the same name as myself! My kids barely trust me because of this latest spy tactic. My son talks about wanting to punch his dad in the face. My daughter told her dad she hates him. When I mention getting a counselor, my kids say we don’t trust anyone but you. They are currently on a week visitation out of state. I can’t believe this is our life! We don’t get out of survival mode. It has been like this for year. I don’t want to push the “trust” with the kids but need to do what is best for them and myself. Help!

]]> By: Light http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/smear-campaigns-part-4#comment-165 Light Sun, 23 Oct 2011 04:39:13 +0000 http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/?p=313#comment-165 Sounds like you've been validated, Marie! Sometimes just standing up to people like this makes it all so much clearer. Your son is getting a good deal. Thanks to you, he'll be mentally healthier than he might have ended up. He's a lucky kid! Sounds like you’ve been validated, Marie! Sometimes just standing up to people like this makes it all so much clearer. Your son is getting a good deal. Thanks to you, he’ll be mentally healthier than he might have ended up. He’s a lucky kid!

]]> By: marie http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/smear-campaigns-part-4#comment-154 marie Fri, 21 Oct 2011 18:26:51 +0000 http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/?p=313#comment-154 i am experiencing the start of a smear campaign since i sent a no contact letter to my narc cousin last week. i have had nasty letters from two aunts both berating me for being so horrible to my poor cousin and then basically decending into assassinations of my character that are so exagerated and full of rubbish and projection that i actually feel loads better, as i was feeling bad after doing it and now i do not! i now know for a fact i have done exactly the right thing and my partner and i had a good laugh about them! and thanks be to God they wont ever get their poison claws into my lovely son; he has seen so little of them in his life he just doesn't care and thats great because it means they can't hurt him! i am experiencing the start of a smear campaign since i sent a no contact letter to my narc cousin last week. i have had nasty letters from two aunts both berating me for being so horrible to my poor cousin and then basically decending into assassinations of my character that are so exagerated and full of rubbish and projection that i actually feel loads better, as i was feeling bad after doing it and now i do not! i now know for a fact i have done exactly the right thing and my partner and i had a good laugh about them! and thanks be to God they wont ever get their poison claws into my lovely son; he has seen so little of them in his life he just doesn’t care and thats great because it means they can’t hurt him!

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